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2 1/2 years-old

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Today is Ellie’s half birthday.  If you ask her, she will already tell you she is “two and a half” instead of “two.”  Apparently the distinction is important.

Here’s what Ellie is like at this stage of her life:

* She does not like sarcasm.  If she tells us she went to camp today and one of us says, “no, you didn’t go to camp, did you?”  She gets very upset and says, “yes I did!”  Perhaps it is not sarcasm that is lost on her, but rather she does not like to be told she is wrong, especially when she is very aware and smart!

*Since she welcomed her little brothers this month, Ellie has demonstrated that she is a wonderful big sister.  She regularly brings her brothers the bears she made for them, blankets, and pacifiers without being asked by any of us to do so.  She also likes to make sure their equipment is turned on to full swinging motion, high vibration, and that all lights and music are started.  Ellie will warn us when one of her brothers is crying and she becomes concerned if she does not immediately see all three.  She regularly asks, “where’s the other one?”

*She developed a few new phrases:

—She refers to me as “MY mommy,” something she has never done before.  For example, she might say, “can I have more milk, my mommy?”  I think it is no coincidence that she developed this just as her brothers arrived.

—“That rhymes!”  Ellie’s Papa taught her rhyming words and so Ellie is now quick to identify when words rhyme and if you give her a word, 9 times out of 10, she’ll tell you what (legitimate word) rhymes with it.  I am impressed by how quickly she has learned this skill and how her rhyming words are sometimes more sophisticated than mine.  Recently, I asked her what rhymes with “ball” and I thought she might say “mall.”  Instead, she said “small.”

*Ellie enjoys her new Leap Frog computerized book.  She can play independently with it and it has been a lifesaver during some long baby feeding sessions.

*The last few months, Ellie discovered a few new favorite foods: grapes, raspberries, deviled eggs, and egg in a hole.

*Her sleep schedule continues to be 7:30pm-7:30am, with a nap from 1-3.  It is not uncommon for her to talk and sing through her entire nap, but that is just fine as it makes both she and I happy to have some downtime.

*Finally, Ellie has really enjoyed the extra time and attention she has gotten from her grandparents who have been taking turns being here this summer.  It has been a joy to watch her develop her relationship with them and to have a special thing she enjoys doing with each of them.  This extra time with her grandparents may be the biggest gift her brothers have given her so far.

Ellie eagerly anticipates going back to preschool next week and beginning a new fall routine.

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The First Month

Things are still going well. It is hard to find much time to myself to blog and stay connected as much as I would like, but that is okay. The boys are growing well and eating like champions. They have started to be more awake and a bit fussy at times, but they seem to take turns. Therefore, it is not often that all three need to be consoled at once, but also it can mean that there are not long periods of time where none of them need to be consoled.

Survival this month has been possible due to night help, family help, church dinners, and church helpers. Ellie’s friend Ava became a big sister to twins shortly before we had our boys. Her mother and I have formed a great bond connecting over our experience of raising multiples. One of the things she said is that having multiples right now is almost easier than just adding one baby to the mix, because people constantly offer help and it is easy to justify other luxuries and allowances that we are making (i.e. night help). Otherwise, we would be going it alone, just as women do every day. I do believe this adjustment has been easier than if we had only one new baby and no help! Therefore, we are very grateful for so many people who have rallied around us and given us much of their time and energy to make this doable.

Ellie is also doing well. She has had the great fortune to have a lot of playdates with her friends. Also, because we have some great family help right now, I am even able to get out with her to the playground and our playgroups, just like old times. This will be less feasible once I am on my own, but it is a good transition for us right now. She is a caring and thoughtful big sister and she tries, in her own way, to make sure each of her brothers is well taken care of.

Finally, here are some more photos:

This captures a "classic" image of Jack

This captures a "classic" image of Jack

Papa and Mimi with Jack, James, Ellie, and Thomas

Papa and Mimi with Jack, James, Ellie, and Thomas

Easy-going James

Easy-going James

Still easy-going, even with milk all over his face

Still easy-going, even with milk all over his face

One of my favorite photos...the sweet moments only multiples can have...James on left and Thomas on right

One of my favorite photos...the sweet moments only multiples can have...James on left and Thomas on right

Nana, Cousin Henry, and James

Nana, Cousin Henry, and James

Ellie being crazy, holding brother James

Ellie being crazy, holding brother James

I’m delighted that James appears in so many of these pictures, as I sometimes feel he gets the least amount of attention from us because he is not very demanding!

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One of my biggest concerns about having triplets was being able to tell them apart.  Though they are fraternal, I have always had trouble telling others’ multiples apart.  With rare exception, since the first day, they have been quite easy to tell apart. 

They also have three different temperaments.  Here’s what we’ve gotten to know about them so far:

James:  he is the most laid back.  He does not get easily worked up.  He tolerates being fed last, baths, cord care, tummy time, and just about any other activity to which he could negatively respond.  He’s  now the smallest, which may be a result of his lack of demands for food and his ability to let his brothers take their fair share.  Unfortunately for James, this means he is not the first to be picked up, but we’ve found he is great for visitors as most people want to hold a baby that won’t fuss.  I also feel like I don’t know James as well as his brothers because he has not forced us to figure out what he needs due to his acceptance of most things.

Jack: he is feisty.  He’s the first to want to eat and he eats the most.  He eats with great intensity and is not one to waste time or fall asleep while eating. He does not easily settle down after feeding.  He feels a bit smaller and floppier than his brothers, but he is certainly not weak.  He has been the fastest weight gainer and I’ve found I have to comfort and hold him more than his brothers.  This is also the child who pees through every diaper.  Jack will not easily be forgotten as he makes his presence known.   We already have deemed one particular bouncy seat “Jack’s” and he has relied on a pacifier a few times. 

Thomas:  he is a bit harder to pin down.  He is a solid baby.  He has filled out a bit and he is quite strong.  Put him on his tummy and he is kicking and moving around.  It almost looks like he’d crawl away if given enough time.  Of course, he cries through the entire tummy time.  He can eat his fair share of food and he is the largest of his brothers, but sometimes he can fall asleep and be fine with a smaller feeding.  He prefers aparatuses that swing.  He fights being swaddled, but he seems to actually settle down best when swaddled tightly.  He tends to cry out during naps more than his brothers; someone said it is like he wants you to be prepared that he is going to need something soon. 

I had no idea they would be so easy to tell apart both in physical appearance and personality.  It will be so fun to watch them develop their identities and surprise us in the way they change.  I haven’t counted James out yet to be a real terror at some point!

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Name origins

Naming children is tough.  Naming boys is even tougher in our household.  Naming three at once was a monumental task.  Ellie was named after Wes’ grandmother, Mary Eleanor Hardiman Barry.  We wanted to stick with family names for her brothers. 

Here is how we arrived at the final choices:

Jack–Lindsay’s grandfather, Karl John Parker, was nicknamed “Jack.”  We liked that Ellie’s name is a nickname of Wes’ grandmother and that Jack’s name is a nickname of Lindsay’s grandfather. 

Wesley–obvious.  It is also a middle name that appears on Wes’ dad’s side.

James–named after Lindsay’s father, James Harold Flora, whose grandfather was also named James.

Parker–Lindsay’s mother’s (Karla Parker Flora) maiden name. 

Thomas–named after Wes’ father, Thomas Ross Barry.

Murphy–Wes’ mother’s (Claire Lewise Murphy Barry) maiden name.

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Weighing in

at 5lbs 7 ounces is Jack Wesley Barry
and in this corner
at 5lbs 4 ounces is James Parker Barry
and in this corner
at a whopping 5lbs 13 ounces is Thomas Murphy Barry

We went for our one week check up. Amazingly everyone is doing well. James is lagging on the weights, but in the acceptable range. Getting the three in and out of the minivan is an interesting challenge, but manageable at this time with how light they are and the rarity of trips.

Our pediatrician was excited to meet the boys and impressed with how well Lindsay is feeding them.

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First Full Day At Home

{this blog is by Wes}
Well, with everyone napping, I thought I would update you all on the Barry patch and most importantly upload some photos! Sorry that you will have deal with my ramblings for a while as Lindsay’s blogging will take a back seat. And to answer the question why there are not too many photos of Lindsay, let’s just say that many are not “G” rated.

It is all quiet in the house for the moment, so here it goes…

The staff at the Women’s Center was amazed at how well Lindsay as taken to caring and feeding these three boys. They reflected that in 11 years they do not recall having a set of triplets on the floor.

Yesterday, as I approached the elevator with our triple stroller I realized how fortunate we are. For most triplet parents the ability to take home a child, let alone all three, is a day of great celebration. Lindsay and I though–understandably–are intimidated by the upcoming demands. And just as the door to elevator closed, a woman stepped on board who was going to visit her grandson born at 24 weeks and weighing 1lb 6 ounces. So Lindsay and I know how richly blessed we are with these boys and appreciate the support, prayers and encouragement we have received and will need to continue receiving.

Ellie has taken to the boys. We we feed, she gets a bottle for her baby doll. When I changed their diapers, she changed her baby dolls. In fact the forth bouncy seat is set up so that her doll can sleep with the boys right now.

And I forgot what you all really care about:

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Too Tired For Words

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