Upon hearing we would be having triplets, fear was the predominant emotion that presented. Many fears came and went, but the persistent one for me has been the impact this development would have on Ellie, both short- and long-term. I wondered how many dreams and expectations we had for Ellie would be unmet due to the demands and realities of a much larger family than we had anticipated. We certainly have dreams for Jack, James, and Thomas, too, but all of those were created with all four children in mind. Whenever I encounter struggles and issues with Ellie, I often wonder how much of it has to do with my parenting skills and decisions, how much with her being a sister to triplets, and how much is independent of any of it. My ability to overanalyze can often be a detriment.
Fast forward to today. Wes and I attended Ellie’s school conference. The primary purpose is to discuss kindergarten readiness. Not surprisingly, Ellie is definitely ready. I was very proud and impressed to hear that the teachers are so amazed by her advanced cognitive skills that they have gotten her her own set of books and keep them on a special shelf so she can read them. The highlight, however, was hearing the teacher’s feedback that Ellie loves her family, enjoys belonging to it, and that her family is the most special thing in her life. It seems like this would be true of many children, but the tone with which the teacher said it and the fact that she reported it at all, seemed to indicate it was unique and important. I cannot tell you what a relief it was to hear that the very thing that I feared would impact Ellie the most, has indeed impacted her, but for the better. I treasure this reassurance and the constant gift Ellie is to us.
Sounds like a lovely meeting with her teacher. She is a true gem, and definitely has been impacted positively by you both as parents (despite Wes’ plea to go camping when the topic of sleepovers comes up) 🙂
You’re a fabulous partnership, with wonderful children. Congrats!
How wonderful!! I always loved having lots of siblings too and can’t imagine my life now without them. Your Ellie is so sweet and will always be such a wonderful sister to your boys. I have to say that I think your children are all very lucky to have each other and you two as parents!