Our three turn three on the third!
Enjoy our annual tribute.
Sweet Jack,
Happy 3rd Birthday, buddy! It feels like you’ve gone from a wobbly and quiet toddler to an active young boy in just a year. We are both so glad to be your parents and to bear witness to your great health and the laughter you bring to our family.
You have a knack for finding humor in the simplest of things and responding with your infectious laugh. You like to point out the design on Mimi’s shirt and say, “Your shirt dirty, Mimi!” You also like to pick on people a bit (i.e. spraying them with water) and catch mommy doing something silly or forgetful. Your laughter is a great relief from times when you’re easily frustrated and resort to crying and whining. You’re very precise and particular about how you want things and you get easily frustrated when it goes wrong or you’re not able to get things/toys to function as you desire. You and mommy have bonded well over this and she likes to prevent people from interfering with something you’ve worked hard on. Your dad and your brothers, however, seem to like to pick on you. It’s a blessing that this lends you to be rule-abiding and cooperative, and we pray that these traits continue to develop in you as you grow.
Your speech is much-improved from one year ago. You often appear shy or bashful as you tend to ignore questions people ask of you or refuse to say or sing something you know. You’re very intelligent, so it appears you see no point in showing off your smarts to others. At the same time, you don’t know that we hear another side of you. When you’re off with James and Thomas and should be napping, we hear you leading conversations, directing play, and singing loudly the songs you refuse to sing in our presence. We’re intrigued by this mysteriously bolder side of you! It seems that you, more than any of your brothers, are inquisitive and bombarding us with endless “Why?” questions.
You are good at finding ways to engage each of your siblings, but you do seem to enjoy playing by yourself. In fact, you are very good at playing independently and entertaining yourself for quite some time…at least until someone comes to interfere. Puzzles and cars continue to be your obsessions. You are also an agile climber. Furniture, walls, cribs, and play structures are not intimidating to you. You are a spry boy with small features. Yet, you are not overly energetic or restless. We pray your independence and inquisitiveness will help you develop confidence as you explore the world.
One aspect of your life that seems to tie together many parts of your personality is your selective eating. Your preferences appear, at least to us, to be arbitrary and unpredictable. You determine your dislike for something simply by its color, appearance, or presentation. You emphatically refuse to even try a small bite of anything you’ve determine not to like. This demonstrates your sense of knowing what you want and how you want it. Meal times usually bring out most of your whining and intensity. As a positive spin, it gives you an outlet to express your assertiveness and challenges us as parents to teach you rules, respect, and compromise.
We are grateful for another year of creating new memories with you and learning more about the person God has created you to be. Thanks for challenging us to do better, for being easygoing and generally easy to predict, and for reliably making us laugh.
Love always,
Mommy and Daddy
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Dear James,
You’re now a big three-year-old! You win the award for the child with biggest life change this year. This time last year, you had no energy, whined frequently, and were ALWAYS wanting to be held by mommy. Since getting ear tubes in December, you have boundless energy, speak much more, and are very independent. In fact, where once you were tied to mommy’s hip, we’ve now had to retrieve you several times when you’ve wandered off. We also caught you body slamming and grunting while playing in the bouncy house; this is truly nothing like before. We’re sorry it took us so long to get you the help you needed. However, it brings us great joy to see your contentment now.
We could also argue that you are the most changed physically, because you’ve recently had some major cuts to your face from falling. You’re a bit accident prone and sensitive to any kind of injury, including countless skinned knees. You demand Band Aids for even the most minor scratch and you’d prefer they stay adhered for weeks. You puzzle us a bit because you’re cautious around some dangerous things, yet you’re mischievous, you like to do things you know you shouldn’t, and you endlessly test limits. There’s a clear resistance you have to our parental authority and you will fight to get what you want. Breaking things and refusing to do your chores are predictable (mis)behaviors for you. We are learning to be creative in our parenting. Many people remark how closely you resemble daddy. Maybe your cuteness coupled with your defiance come from him? This desire to push boundaries allows you to develop and explore new things, but it can also put you into risky situations. We pray that your strong will will also be tempered with a humble heart.
Your determination leads to your remarkable self-sufficiency. You’ve been dressing yourself for many months and with great ease. You have been quick to attach yourself to a certain outfit and insist on wearing it whenever it is clean. In the winter, it was brown pants and a red shirt. In the summer, it is orange shorts with an orange striped shirt. You also insist on wearing Ellie’s pink animal print sunglasses and not your own. Negotiating with you on these matters is a lost cause and we choose not to fight these battles.
You are open-minded in ways, too, as you eat a variety of new foods, even gourmet or spicy ones. You are also very cooperative in playing with Ellie and allowing her to direct a lot of your play. And, before we ever become too frustrated, you often come up with something funny or cute to remind us why we love you so much. For example, we think it is very cute that you think the word tomorrow is “at morrow.” And, you pronounce anything with “berry” as “betty,” as in “strawbetty.”
One thing we know we need to focus on more with you is sports. You pay close attention and seem to pick up quickly on skills we demonstrate. You loved playing putt putt and golf with dad. You are first to the T-ball set, and you enjoy throwing a ball around. As you, Thomas, and Jack continue to develop your own interests, we suspect you’ll find your niche in the sports arena.
We are excited for another year of seeing the “new” James develop. You seem primed and motivated for big things and we are eager to explore with you your talents, gifts, and interests.
We love you,
Mommy and Daddy
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Dear Thomas (aka “T,” “T-Dog,” “T-Man”),
Happy 3rd Birthday, big boy! We don’t actually call you by your nicknames very often, but something funny usually happens when we do. Sometimes you tell us your name is “T,” other times you correct us and say, “I not T-Man, I T-Dog” and other times you make it clear that you’re only answering to the name, “Thomas.” Because you are such a verbal and expressive boy, you let us in to who you are and we enjoy very much what we see.
You have very good manners and are becoming sensitive to others. It’s not uncommon for you to say something encompassing all of your kind words, such as, “Please get me milk, mommy….”Thank you, Welcome!” in one very fast sentence. You’ve also learned to assert yourself. When everyone gets talking at once, you grab mommy’s arm and say, “Let me talk now!” If you do something that generates a laugh, you often do it repeatedly to keep looking for the laugh. We try not to disappoint.
After James got tubes and very quickly wanted to be held less by mommy, you swooped in. It seems like you’re still finding your place since James shifted his role as you sometimes have a lot of energy and independence and sometimes your sensitivity manifests itself by you saying, “Mommy, pick up me” all day long. Dr. Ball remembers one of your first appointments as an infant where she picked you up and you clung close. She often reminds us that you’re the snuggler. Even at age three, you seem to like close touch and affection. It also seems like you have learned to gain most of Mom’s attention by requesting to be held. You have to share most things in life, but you really don’t want to have to share your mom, too. Other relationships are important to you as well; you like to be front and center around other kids. You speak often of your friends at school. And, in learning your letters, you like to associate letters with your friends’ names rather than with objects. You also started your brothers on a game of identifying eye color among people and stating who is similar. It is important to you that you, Jack, Ellie, Nana, and mommy have blue/green eyes and that James, Daddy, and Savannah have brown eyes. Your extroversion is a strength that draws people in, and we pray you can use this to build deep friendships and spread your love for life with others.
You enjoy playing with trains (Thomas the Train, of course), kitchen toys, and anything else that someone is playing with. You like the companionship, at least for awhile. Books are a hit with you, too. You very quickly memorize the refrains. Your favorite book is “Owl Babies” by Martin Waddell. It’s fitting since it is a story about three baby owls who adore their mother and miss her when she’s gone.
We regularly thank God for you, for he blessed us with a boy who is very tender and fun. You may be the baby of the family, but you have a big presence that we’d never want to do without. We eagerly anticipate another fun year with you.
Love and hugs,
Mommy and Daddy
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